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No More Christian Nice Girl Conference

Based on the powerful book, No More Christian Nice Girl, this conference helps women become the strong, confident and still compassionate person they were meant to be. Ideal for burned-out women depleted from hamster-wheel religion, who always try to please people and always coming up short. Here Paul explains with insight and humor how being nice is harmful and drains life out of relationships.This conference illuminates the keys to fulfillment at home, work, and church. Women are shown how to emulate the real Jesus, and how this emulation transforms them from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith.

Insight and inspiration as to how to avoid the unintended and often unseen pitfalls of over-parenting is also given, helping women to raise secure, confident and compassion children who are far less likely to become the targets of bullies and more likely to embrace courageous faith.

Not since Boundaries has there been a more helpful resource for Christian women who struggle with “doormat syndrome.” In 10 poignant chapters, Coughlin, bestselling author of No More Christian Nice Guy, and psychologist Jennifer Degler use their valuable insights to help women conquer their fears of conflict, rejection and criticism. The authors deftly use Scripture to debunk the myth that Jesus was always “nice,” and that’s what he expects of His women. Instead, they argue that God requires courageous truth telling—even when it hurts. Using real life anecdotes, examples of strong women in the Bible and discussion questions, the book effectively guides women on the journey from Christian Nice Girl to God’s Good Woman. Especially powerful are Chapters: “Marriage: How Nice Messes Up Matrimony” and “Work: How Nice Cripples Your Career.”

–Youthworker Journal
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No More Christian Nice Girl Book

When Just Being Nice—Instead of Good—Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends

Price: $15

By Paul Coughlin & Jennifer D. Degler, PhD
Bethany House Publishers
Be the strong, confident and still compassionate woman you were meant to be.Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral—or headed in reverse? Fed up with trying to please everyone but always coming up short? Paul Coughlin and psychologist Jennifer Degler show how being nice can harm you and drain the life out of your relationships. They explore the keys to fulfillment at home, at work, church, and even in the bedroom. You’ll discover that emulating the real Jesus is the key to transforming from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith.

“What’s wrong with being nice? Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler make a strong case that women need to be bold and assertive rather than people pleasers who try to do too much. I recommend this book to you.” —Dr. Kevin Leman, author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday

  • Paul Coughlin! He’s amazing. I’m honored to be speaking with him today. Paul has a prophetic message for men. I’m a big fan. He talks about the martial spirit, about the thumos of men, about moving men from being nice to dangerous and good in the image of Jesus Christ. You have to hear this guy.

    Kenny Luck, Men's Pastor
    Saddleback Church, California
    Founder and President of Every Man's Ministries

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Books by Paul

  • No More Christian Nice Girl
  • 5 Secrets Great Dads Know
  • Unleashing Courageous Faith
  • No More Christian Nice Guy
  • No More Jellyfish, Chickens or Wimps
  • Married But Not Engaged


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